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Erin Khar is the author of STRUNG OUT and writes the weekly Ask Erin advice column.

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Ask Erin: How Do I Stop Stalking My Partner On Social Media?

September 23, 2021 Erin Khar
*Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez

*Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez

What’s concerning to me is not that he liked some posts on Instagram, but that he made an agreement that it seems he never intended to keep.

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In AskErin Tags Ask Erin, social media stalking, infidelity, relationship problems, relationships, trust
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Ask Erin: My Sister Is Depressed And I Don't Know How To Help Her

September 16, 2021 Erin Khar
Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez

Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez

The first thing I want you to consider is that the way your sister lashes out at your mother is a typical symptom of depression in teenagers. Teens do not display depression in the same ways as adults do. Where depression in an adult may look like sadness, it often looks like anger and irritability in a teenager.

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In AskErin Tags Ask Erin, teenagers, parenting, parenting teens, pandemic, Covid, depression
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Ask Erin: My Ex Is In Early Sobriety; Should I Tell Him I’ll Wait?

September 9, 2021 Erin Khar
Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez

Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez

Letting go is painful, but hanging on to what no longer exists is far more painful. You know that you can’t fix this for him. So give him the space for his recovery and make space for your own.



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In AskErin Tags Ask Erin, advice, recovery, addiction, addiction recovery, Al-Anon, codependent, relationships, exes
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Eight days

August 23, 2021 Erin Khar

The paperback edition of STRUNG OUT is almost here. It publishes on 8.31.21 which is in 8 days!

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In News, Blog Tags publishing, Strung Out, paperback, book news, addiction, recovery
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A photograph of myself is all I have to show for....

July 25, 2021 Erin Khar
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“I spent the summer wasting
The time was passed so easily
But if the summer's wasted
How come that I could feel so free?

I spent the summer wasting
The sky was blue beyond compare
A photograph of myself
Is all I have to show for-
Seven weeks of river walkways
Seven weeks of staying up all night”

— Belle and Sebastian

I spent the summer wasting
The time was passed so easily
But if the summer's wasted
How come that I could feel so free?

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In Blog Tags Hello, summer, catching up, book news
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Ask Erin: I Got Chlamydia From My Partner; Should I Forgive Him?

June 24, 2021 Erin Khar
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Nine months ago, I found out my partner was cheating on me. I decided to forgive him and try to move on… Today I found out I have chlamydia.

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In AskErin Tags Ask Erin, advice, STD, STI, infidelity, cheating, fertility, trust, relationship problems

Ask Erin: Can A Gay Man Have Feelings For A Woman?

May 20, 2021 Erin Khar
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I am an openly gay man. I came out gay a few years ago. Now I’m confused about my sexuality, as I am starting to develop feelings for my female friend.

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In AskErin Tags Ask Erin, sexuality, pansexuality, romantic love, platonic love, identity
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Ask Erin: Am I In Love With My Best Friend?

April 8, 2021 Erin Khar
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He's the first one I want to talk to when anything happens to me and I enjoy everything we do together. I do love him sincerely. My question is: Do I love him as more than a friend?

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In AskErin Tags Ask Erin, advice, friendship, platonic love, romantic love, feelings for a friend, emotional cheating
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Ask Erin: I'm Too Burned Out To Care About Other People; Is That Bad?

March 19, 2021 Erin Khar
Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez

Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez

I'm so burned out I'd be scared if I could feel right now.

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In AskErin Tags Ask Erin, boundaries, burnout, trauma, therapy
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Ask Erin: My Friend Falsely Accused My Husband Of Sexual Assault

March 11, 2021 Erin Khar
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With my husband sitting right next to me, I got a hysterical call from Candy saying that my husband had just then deliberately walked in on her in the shower, took pictures of her with his phone, and that she was going to call the police and report him.

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In AskErin Tags Ask Erin, lies, the truth, accusations, sexual assault, boundaries, friendship trouble, toxic
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Ask Erin: I Think I Might Be A Rapist

February 18, 2021 Erin Khar
Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez

Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez

I never intended to hurt her in any way. I truly loved her, always tried to protect her, and thought I was very careful. At the time, I truly believed that what I did would be okay with her.

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In AskErin Tags Ask Erin, consent, relationships, Sex, rape
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Ask Erin: Is It Wrong To Want To Eat In A Restaurant On Valentine's Day?

February 11, 2021 Erin Khar
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My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. Actually, Valentine’s Day will be our two year anniversary. We talked about it, and he doesn’t want to go to a restaurant because of Covid.

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In AskErin Tags Ask Erin, advice, relationships, relationship problems, Valentine's Day, Covid
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Ask Erin: My Fiancé Says I'm The Problem; Is He Right?

February 4, 2021 Erin Khar
Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez

Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez

My fiancé and I haven’t gotten along since about three months after we had our first baby together… I used to give and give and give, and now I have nothing but anger. We just can’t communicate.



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In AskErin Tags dysfunctional relationship, fighting, arguing, therapy, relationship problems
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Do you want to get a letter from me?

February 3, 2021 Erin Khar
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I have long been a fan of the Letters in the Mail subscription series offered by The Rumpus. For $10/month (that keeps one of the best literary sites around up and running) you receive an actual, physical letter in the mail. Every month. From amazing authors! It’s such a treat to get these. I am a subscriber, so I was THRILLED when they asked me to pen a letter.

You have until February 11th to sign up in time to receive my letter. You can find more info HERE. I hope you do AND I hope you write back!

XOXO

P.S. You can order individual letters from past authors, too!!!!

In Blog Tags news, letters, The Rumpus
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Ask Erin: I Think There’s Something Inappropriate Between My Husband And My Stepdaughter

January 28, 2021 Erin Khar
Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez

Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez

Three months ago, my husband met his adult daughter for the first time. Everything seemed normal until they met in person. Now, they act as though they are a couple.

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In AskErin Tags Ask Erin, incest, relationships, sexual abuse, predator
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Ask Erin: I Don't Know How To Help My Friend Who Is Struggling With Addiction

January 22, 2021 Erin Khar
*Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez

*Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez

Addiction has a hold over them, and it's breaking my heart. I know that they aren’t going to seek help until they want it for themself, but I miss my friend, and I'm concerned about their life. What can I do?

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In AskErin Tags Ask Erin, addiction, addiction recovery, Al-Anon, opiates
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Ask Erin: Will I Ever Be Truly Free From Guilt?

January 14, 2021 Erin Khar

I’ve been free of opiates for 12 years now. I have come a long way. Much of it I have put behind me, so my question for you is: How do I deal with the long term guilt I am always carrying on my back?

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In AskErin Tags Ask Erin, guilt, shame, recovery, addiction recovery, addiction, opiates
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Ask Erin: Do You Think I Can Salvage A Sexual Relationship With Him?

January 7, 2021 Erin Khar
 *Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez

 

*Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez

I couldn't go through with it since he has a wife. I told him that if we had sex, I'd get attached, making him end it. Do you think he may still want sex with me in the future?

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In AskErin Tags Ask Erin, crush, affair, casual sex, power dynamics
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Ask Erin: Is It Possible To Love Two People At The Same Time?

November 12, 2020 Erin Khar
Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez

Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez

Is there a way to be in more than one relationship at a time and keep everyone happy and comfortable? Is there a name for what I'm going through?

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In AskErin Tags Ask Erin, polyamory, monogamy, relationships, cheating

Ask Erin: Should I Trust That My Abusive Boyfriend Has Changed? 

October 29, 2020 Erin Khar
Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez (http://tessemilyart.weebly.com)

Artwork: Tess Emily Rodriguez (http://tessemilyart.weebly.com)

Although he isn't going through my phone or emails anymore, I feel that this “change” has only to do with the way he manipulates and tries to control me.

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In AskErin Tags Ask Erin, advice, relationships, relationship problems, toxic, abuse
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